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Yes! We’re having a baby! I’m actually still having a hard time believing the words as I’m typing them!
Never say never!
I learned to stop using the word “never” after I stopped working with Mary Kay Cosmetics because I honestly loved it so much I thought I would never change careers.
I thought I would never drive anything except my pink Mary Kay car forever (For my Italian friends, if you had a certain amount of sales each month you could earn the use of this free pink Cadillac). Wrong again!
And for those of you who really know me, you already know I said I would absolutely, never, have kids. I guess all the jokes are on me.
Why I never wanted kids
It’s not that I don’t like kids. I’ve been a teacher for many years and I actually adore them, I just didn’t want to be responsible for my own at the end of the day.
As an aunt or teacher, I could do the fun things with them for a few hours and then when I’m tired go home to my nice, cozy, quiet house. I enjoy my quality time. I love my luxury vacations.
Most of all, sleep has always been my main priority. As you can see, I thought it would be better if I never had kids.
Things Change
Besides the pandemic craziness, 2020 was a whirlwind for me. Everything changed…literally my entire life was picked up, twisted around, and tossed in a completely different direction. As you can imagine, it wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows.
I have some news for y’all… Not everything is going to go the way you think it is or even the way you planned it to. In fact, for me, nothing is, and I couldn’t be happier.
The more I look back at the past, all I can think is how grateful I am. I really do believe there is a reason for everything and YOU can choose to be a victim or a warrior.
Things change, people change, and no, you can’t control everything, so enjoy life!
We’re having a baby, and it was planned….seriously!
So, to the story of the baby… when I met Marco the “kids” topic came up. I told him “I absolutely do not want kids, I’ve never wanted them, and I definitely don’t now. What about you?” He responded, “It would be a pity.”
My heart melted. Why would it be a pity? He wanted to create another beautiful human being with my traits.
The way he loves me through all of my flaws (and believe me, I’ve got a lot!) took me by such surprise. I honestly thought I would never romantically love someone again and to be even more honest, I felt like there was nothing left of me to give, and surely no one would understand me, be patient with me, and pick me up and dust me off.
From the moment he met me, there were no secrets, he knew what he was dealing with, and he did all of the things I thought someone would never do.
Naturally, I started contemplating if I would ever budge on the whole kid decision.
At first, I thought no way, I’m 30 years old. It’s not possible I will change my mind now. As time went on and he helped bring out the best in me with his gentle and patient ways, I really started to consider it.
After we were officially married, I was practically begging him to have a baby. Let’s create the sweetest little human being on the planet.
Can I get pregnant?
After several months, I started to worry that I found the perfect match for my life but now that I finally wanted a child, I wasn’t able to have it.
Oddly enough, right before I was about to start blood tests and take other measures, I got the beautiful positive sign on the test, that I was in fact pregnant!!
13 weeks
Even though we were fully aware of what we wanted and planned the pregnancy, I have to admit, the shock of it actually happening is just now starting to wear off.
I will be 13 weeks on Sunday and the baby’s due date is October 9, 2021. Which just happens to be my husband’s birthday!
Pregnant Life in another country
I will be sharing more and writing about what it’s like to be pregnant and give birth in Italy as an American expat.
So far, the differences between a pregnancy in the US (from what I know) and Italy are pretty big and somewhat uncomfortable but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, change is inevitable. I’m just going with the flow! 🙂
Thanks for celebrating our future little one with us!
XOXOXO
